You know that scene from the movie Bridget Jones’s Diary where she’s singing along to sad FM in her pajamas and smoking and drinking and generally looking miserable? When I see that scene I just want to reach through the screen and give her a great big hug. Maybe that’s cause I’m a mom, and it pains me to see people being sad. Maybe it’s because it’s just a human response to comfort others. Or maybe it’s because I have been there myself. No matter the reason, I had a similar response when I heard a friend tell me “I told someone about Mom Prom and she said she’d love to go, but she doesn’t really know many people, and none of them are already going to Mom Prom.”
Oh, my heart.
These days, I know lots of local women with whom I am likely to call up and make plans. But I clearly recall being the new kid in middle school and going to the dance and standing there totally alone because I had not yet met my BFF. I remember vividly just wanting to sink into the ground. It was awkward. I was not rocking that hot pink and black colorblock 80s dress. My overly large 80s glasses and braceface self was feeling miserable.
So, trust me. I understand. Really. Truly, I do.
But do you know what? The Mom Prom is not your middle school dance. I promise you that. Women there are likely to strike up a convo in the bathroom line. Or they will welcome you into their dance circle. Or they will pull you into their photo booth picture group.
For those who have a huge tribe or know a bunch of women who are attending, I ask you to keep an eye out for the brave souls who come to the event solo. Reach out to someone and start a conversation. Some of them may be new to the area. Or maybe they’re a new Mom and don’t we all remember how isolating that can feel? Or maybe she’s just not yet found her people. Reach out. Say hello.
For those hesitant to come because they don’t know anyone, I hope that you take a chance. I hope that you give it a try. We will come through for you.
If you don’t believe me, let me put it out there. If you go to Mom Prom alone, and you feel like you don’t know ANYONE at all, just walk up to any of the event organizers and tell them “Hey- I’m here by myself and don’t have a tribe” and we will help you find one. Yes, really. We will chat with you. We will introduce you to people. The worst that can happen is that you leave the event having only had a good time of dancing and chatting and snacks, with swag bag in hand. On the other hand, maybe you find your tribe.